The Spiritual Adult - by Jach Pursel

Q. Can anybody tell or give me his definition what exactly a Spiritual Adult is ... ?

A. Good question! <g> Actually Lazaris spent an Evening with Lazaris years ago discussing this very topic. It's called "Discovering the Adult."

During that evening Lazaris' talk suggests that an adult (different from a grown-up) is a synergy. The whole (adult) is greater than the sum of the parts. One of the parts is our Free Child.

In most psychologies we learn of our adaptive inner child and our idealized child. However, when we learn to work with that child and when we meet their needs, that adaptive and idealized child can become free. The free child can also be a very magical child that can open us to our imagination and our creativity; they can open us to our visions and dreams.

Another part is our Curious Adolescent. Just as there is an inner child, so there is an inner adolescent. The adolescent in us is often filled with panic (fear of growing up and/or a fear of not growing up) and with the demands of certainty (they want everything to be simple, objective, and understandable in black-white terms).

Once we can deal with the adolescent's panic and need for certainty, our adolescent can become curious. They are filled with boundless energy and a passion that seems eternal. They can give us that youthfulness of mind and heart; we can become curious and that curiosity can be a part of our wonder. It can be a part of our wisdom.

A third part is the Nurturing Parent that we glean from all the parental figures in our life. When we are function from a mind set of free child and curious adolescent rather than adaptive- idealized child and panicky adolescent, we can pick and choose to create a truly loving adaptive parent inside us.

We really do not need our biological parents to be our parents -- we really do not need their approval -- when we create our own inner parent. When I say this I mean that we can liberate our parents from their roles; mother can become a woman and father can become a man.

Combining these three -- Free Child, Curious Adolescent, and Nurturing Parent -- we come to discover our Supportive Ego. The ego that does its job in a healthy way. There is a library file on Negative Ego that can be helpful in understand the role and function of a Supportive Ego.

The Adult who then turns to developing a living, breathing, loving, and embracing (to use Lazaris' phrase) relationship and *partnership* with God/Goddess/All That Is, is the Spiritual Adult.

Anyway, it is the synergy of these four components of ourselves -- it is the integrity to hold a space in each component for the other parts of us -- that generates the Adult.

The Adult who then turns to developing a living, breathing, loving, and embracing (to use Lazaris' phrase) relationship and partnership with God/Goddess/All That Is, is the Spiritual Adult.

As Lazaris often says, "Come as Children is fine. But once there, it is important to be the Spiritual Adult."

This is not a complete answer, Ron, but I hope it helps or at least points you in a helpful direction. <g> If you have further questions, please ask. If I cannot answer them, I am sure there is someone here who can. <g>

Much love,

Jach

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