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Fear of Success

Saturday, December 19, 2015
Blog: Fear of Success

By Lazaris

One has heard so often in the world out there about fears of failure. It was presented perhaps a decade ago as this revelatory understanding that there is fear of success.

And it became something of a catch phrase, something of a buzzword. "Your problem is you have fear of success." And it's true for many people. Ironically, for many people the fear of success is much bigger than the fear of failure. You have learned through conditioning, from the time you were a very small infant, to cope with and deal with failure. Everyone has faced failure many times. You can and do cope with failure. Likewise, you have come to face success as well. However, the "conditioning" to deal with and cope with success is never as thorough or as frequent. Therefore, truly so, success is more frightening than failure is.

However, the FEAR OF SUCCESS became such a catch phrase, such a witty, wise thing to say, that no one stopped to look at ... "Well, what does that really mean?"

The psychological concepts come forth in terms of contractual arrangements with parents. They are contracts like: "I will follow your footsteps, and I will never be better than my dad." Or they come in living up to the parental expectations, the slot that you were put in, your place in the family constellation. Lots of psychological concepts were presented, and again, they were very correct.

But here is what to look at now in this monumental decade, the 1990s. One could elaborate for hours on each of these dynamics, but briefly the mechanisms are as follows:

ONE First of all, success is scary because of the weight one gives it, the weight one places on what it means.

If you hold it inside that success means you're smarter, craftier, wiser or "slicker" (in the negative meaning of the word) than others, then success is very frightening.

If you hold that because you're successful you are therefore superior to or "better-than" other people -- that you are "entitled," that you are "endowed," that you have a right to be arrogant -- then success is scary.

When you hold that success validates you as being good and whole and right and true -- or when you hold that success exonerates you from things that would make a less successful person have to work with forgiveness (which truly does relieve the past) -- then success is scary.

If you attach these kinds of meanings, you weigh down success. Here's success, this thing, this essence. If you hang onto it all these weights of better-than, smarter, craftier, you make it far too heavy. And if you make it so very heavy, it begins to wobble, and indeed it can collapse. Therefore, success is scary because of the weight one gives it.

Further, it's scary because it never does any of those things. It never does make you smarter. It never does vindicate or validate you. It never does exonerate you or make you a perfect person. And if you hold that it will, success becomes very frightening.

So the first thing that makes success really scary is the weight that is attached to it.

TWO What's also frightening about it is that success is part of a creative dynamic. Whenever something is created, there's always something else that is destroyed. This is why Rollo May referred to the courage to create -- because there is always that conflict. As you create something, something else is destroyed. If nothing else, ignorance is destroyed. And this very dynamic of creativity also applies to success. It'll often be followed with guilt -- feeling guilty that you've done something, that you've changed the order of things, that you've stepped outside the normal range.

There may even be a feeling of doubt: "Have I done the right thing? What if I'm not heading in the right direction?" It's so very strange. We hear so many people who are succeeding wonderfully well, but their fear is: "Yes, but what if this wasn't what I was meant to do? What if I was supposed to become something else? Suppose my destiny was something else? What if I've somehow managed to land in this arena of success, and I'm flying along like crazy, and one day will wake up and realize I've missed the boat?" Doubt and the concern around that -- that's part of the creative function. Therefore, we would suggest here it's frightening.

THREE Success is also frightening because success carries chaos with it. We call success Light Chaos. But in your world, you're geared and conditioned to have no chaos at all. It's an outgrowth of adolescence where life is so absolutely, unbelievably chaotic that you try to stabilize it with the absolutes -- the always's and never's, the black's and white's -- of adolescence.

And you have come out of that period with the belief that, above all, you should not have chaos. Above all, have things orderly and smooth. And success has chaos. It brings chaos.

Success therefore erupts and brings forth what we call the "root emotion." Whenever success occurs, it brings out the dark side of self, turmoil and trouble. Therefore, of course, whenever chaos exists, chaos brings the eruption, or at least the disturbance, of the dark side. It brings out the Dark Law -- that basic, unbelievable truth that you hold onto. "I can never be happy," or "I will never be successful," or the various negative beliefs that you've now made into a Law.

Chaos brings questioning and the issue of reviewing self. All chaos does, whatever kind, be it physical or emotional, mental or spiritual. It also brings up issues from the past, issues from childhood.

So there are a number of reasons success is scary, in and of itself. And if you can understand that it is scary, and you can anticipate certain of these fears, then we would suggest you can resolve them.

FOUR One of the biggest reasons success is scary is because of what we call a faulty foundation. When you build a house, you lay a foundation and do all the things that are proper according to code. Then upon it you plan to erect a two-story residence.

Well, if in the midst of waiting for that foundation to dry, you decide, "I think I'll make better use of the space and build a ten-story skyscraper on top," the foundation won't hold.

What we mean by the foundation is the motivation. Why do I want to be successful in the first place? If the reason is not solid, if that's not the proper foundation -- solid or not -- then it's going to lean, to tip, to crack and crumble. And success, like a house of cards, will come down.

And what we mean by faulty foundation is: If you're trying to be successful in order to punish someone, that's a faulty foundation.

"I'll show them. All those kids in school who said I'd never amount to anything -- I'll show them, and I'll go back and rub their noses in it." Or, "I'll show my father," or "I'll show my mother." Or, "I'll get 'em and make them suffer. I'm going to be successful and then walk all over them."

Those are faulty motivations. We didn't say they're wrong or bad. We're not judging them. We're simply saying that they can't weather the weight of success.

If you're doing it to vindicate yourself, it's a faulty foundation. Vindication is a fascinating thing, because your consensus reality tells you to do things to vindicate yourself. It never works. Vindication has never worked. "I made a mistake, so now I'm going to do it right, and that will somehow expunge the record." No, forgiveness works, vindication doesn't.

Therefore, if you're trying to succeed to vindicate yourself -- "I really screwed up in my 20s and now in my 40s I'm going to be a triumphant success and that will expunge the record" -- it won't work. It never does. Even if you have a magnificent success, it never erases anything. Forgiveness can, but not vindication.

If you're doing something as a way to win approval, to win praise, to win the acceptance of another, it's a faulty motivation. Again, we're not saying it's a bad motivation. We're saying that it's too weak. It can support "this much" success for approval, for praise, but it can't support "this much more". When you pile this much on, OK. But more than that, and it starts to wobble and crumble. Indeed you can sabotage yourself and end up punishing yourself simply because the foundation, the motivation, the reason you want to be successful is faulty.

So from the weight of what you attach to the success, to the very foundation underneath it -- from the creative process to the chaotic process in between -- those are four very specific reasons (and there are others) why it's scary.

Now, if you can understand that for yourself, then you can change your motivations. You can rebuild and restructure a whole different foundation for being successful. You can take the weight off and realize that it's not going to make you smarter or better-than or give you license. You can be prepared for the chaos, and when it comes, you can work with it. You can handle it. You don't have to freak out and run away. You can be prepared for the guilt and doubt that's going to arise in the very dynamic of creativity.

So now when success comes, it doesn't have to be scary. And what fear is remaining, you can right. You can have the confidence to know that you can overcome it.

Now, certainly, there are a certain number of approaches and techniques one works with, but that, in a nutshell is what we're talking about when one looks at the fear of success.

Similarly, we have talked about fear itself. Fear is scary, yes? Everyone knows that, but no one really stops to look at why.

Certainly indeed fear is scary because it threatens not so much death, although the threat of destruction is a part of it. Mainly it's scary because it threatens impotence. An example: Perhaps you're not so much afraid of dying as you are afraid of pain in the process of dying. And even scarier is feeling that pain and not dying, and therefore having to live the rest of your life with that. That impotence -- that's the threat that fear offers.

But more than that, fear threatens the withdrawal of affection. Fear threatens the exposure of the Dark side of self. Fear also threatens the exposure of the Light Side of self, the positive qualities that people have that they've similarly learned to tuck away. It's what psychologists call the Shadow, the Dark Shadow and the Light Shadow. Fear threatens to expose them both.

Fear threatens also to produce or generate destruction. It threatens that you'll be totally obliterated, totally demolished - and short of it that, you won't have the gift of death, but that you'll have to survive.

And fear blackmails. Fear says, "If you don't watch out, we're going to cause you to have love withdrawn, and you're going to end up all alone and lonely." Or, "We're going to expose you, and everyone will see your ambition, and your aggressiveness, and the pride and hostility, and all those ugly things you thought you had hidden so well." Or, worse yet, "We're going to expose you, and they're going to see your power and strength and talent and all the beautiful parts that you've hidden away."

It's blackmail, just as if someone said, "We're going to expose something, so pay up." Well, that's what fear does. It says, "If you don't cooperate with us, if you don't be afraid of us, then we're going to do something, and you'd better pay up."

And as with any blackmail, if you expose it, you're safe. Why would love be withdrawn? What would happen to intimacy, the caring? What is that Dark Side that you're so afraid of, or the Light Side that you're even more afraid of? What could be the potential physical damage or maiming or impotence that would be there? What is the loneliness that would be there? What is the loneliness that it really threatens?

And as you can expose that to yourself, then you reduce -not eliminate, but reduce -- why fear is so scary. Once you reduce it, then fear can once again become that instinct that is a natural part of you -- the survival instinct of fight, flight, reproduce and feed yourself. It can become the teacher.

Fear was your first teacher, the very first one you ever had. The fear of mother withdrawing the nursing, the love, the nurturing. It is a great teacher. It is a motivator, certainly so. If necessity is the mother of invention, then too often the father of invention is fear. It can be a great motivator, and we would suggest it also haunts and looms. But it can also warn you, cause you to remind yourself and to keep within the boundaries of your own self and your own direction. Fear can be the boundary to let you know when you're getting off course.

So it can be very positive if you can take away the blackmail. And in that scope, once you remove the blackmail then you can learn to work with fear, and it doesn't have to be so frightening. It doesn't have to be the enemy. In fact, it can become a strange, but nonetheless very valuable, ally. And in this time, it is so important that people really not just say the words and let them pass on by, not just pay lip service to "fear of success," but that they also dig into it and really resolve these issues.

In this decade the greatest of fears and the greatest of joys will be there for humanity -- in an individual and a collective way -- to embrace. As you learn to handle both your right of success and the mask or the shadows of fear, then you can more readily choose the greatest joys and greatest of dreams, and work with and use those fears to implement them.

With love and peace ...

Lazaris

 



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The Magic of Receiving

Thursday, December 17, 2015
Blog: The Magic of Receiving

By Lazaris

This article is a partial transcription of the recording entitled "The Magic of Receiving: A New Dimension of Success"

It is a joy to be with you and to work with you ... And once again, we are going to take a look, a more profound look at receiving. ... In your Darker Moments, we know, there are times that you decide that receiving just does not work, or that you can't do it. Depending upon your particular penchant for self- punishment, blame, or criticism, either you pile it on the function of receiving, or you pile it on yourself. One or the other of you is a failure, that is for sure. In those darker moments ...But, indeed, in the Lighter Times (which are, in fact, the truer times), you absolutely know that you have learned a tremendous amount about the ability, the function, and the wonder of receiving. And more than just learning about it, you have done it. You do it, and you have been very beautifully conscious of receiving the bounty, the abundance, the cornucopia of success -- or at least parts of it -- into your reality.

You know that receiving works, and that you work, too. In those Lighter Moments, in those Truer Times, you have very consciously received. More and more, you are coming out of your own personal darkness and stepping into your very beautiful and personal Light. And in those Lighter, Truer Moments, you are going to find you will receive more than you have allowed yourself to do before. More and more the opportunity to receive will be there. ...

But as much as you do allow and are conscious of your function of receiving, it just doesn't happen consistently enough. You can't trust it enough. You do not feel confident enough to rely upon the phenomenon of receiving. You just can't be intimate with it yet. You cannot be close to it, tender with it, vulnerable with it, and trusting of it to lean on it, to know it will be there when you need it to be, when you want it to be, when it has to be. And beyond this factor of consistency, trust, and confidence, there is also the Magic of Receiving.

The Magic of Receiving offers a whole new dimension of achievement, a whole new dimension of success. Yet as wonderful as that sounds, the Magic is frightening. Not terrifying, perhaps, but frightening. And it is frightening not because you cannot repeat it, for surely you can, but it is frightening because it is so unfathomable ... it's so abstract and mysterious. Indeed its magic seems to stretch beyond the very limits of language. And therefore, you deny yourself the very magic that could open doors and wide vistas of opportunity.

And as you have self-chosen a destiny as MapMaker, as Reality Creator, the next step out of darkness is to engage, to attract, to embrace the full body of the Magic of Receiving. ...

At first glance, Achievement and the Magic of Receiving seem to be in some ways almost at opposite ends of some sort of continuum. One is so active, and the other seems, by its nature, so passive. One seems to be at the source of causation; the other, at the end of allowing. One seems so dynamic, and the other seems so receptive.

But they are, in fact, much more alike than they are different. For truly so, receiving seems very passive at times, but (overtly or subtly) it is tremendously active. As well as being at the allowing end of the continuum, receiving is definitely at the causative end, too, for your willingness to receive can be the very energy that causes the reality you are seeking. And, in fact, the very "doing" energy in the Nature of Achievement also becomes the "doing" energy involved in the Magic of Receiving.

Receiving is an energy. It is not an insurance policy. It is not a guarantee of success.

Receiving is an energy to respect, to harness, to direct, to generate.

Receiving is a teeter-totter-like balance between disengaging the reluctance or refusal to receive and actively engaging and embracing the full body of what you truly want to receive. Receiving is neither friend nor foe, but will function as one depending upon whether you are your own friend or your own foe.

These clues are the same for Achievement as they are for Receiving -- and in these clues is tucked away the Magic of Receiving.

The First Clue

This first clue tells us that Receiving is an energy. Truly it is an energy that is alive, a vibrant and palpable energy. It exists not independently of you, but can and is, at times, separate from you. It is an energy you can step into very consciously or step out of very consciously. It is also an energy that you can step into and out of in what seems to be a less than conscious fashion. It has its boundary, its sphere of influence, its sphere of impact.

The first key to the phenomenon of Receiving is that you already know how to do it. You already do receive -- and not just the good stuff! You see, you do not need to learn how to receive. You need to learn the magic and the allowing, but you already know the function. You're doing it already.

Think for a moment about some constriction in your life, some failure, something that went wrong. Are you honestly going to tell us that you sat down and programmed for that - - that you sat down and said, "OK, how can I go about creating getting fired from my job? How can I create financial disaster? How can I possibly create an auto accident? How can I create an illness?" ... {laughter} ...

Did you go about trying to earn that despair? No, you didn't go about consciously creating those things in the sense of sitting down and making a decision about them. And that's often, ironically, one of the criticisms people have of the concept of creating your own reality. "Well, I didn't do it consciously." That's how it seems, because you create by causing, but you also create by allowing. And one of the many ways in which you allow is by receiving. When this happens, such creations are a product of your beliefs and attitudes, or of limited thoughts and feelings. It is a process of letting the reality show up as a function of receiving.

You already know how. You already know how. That's not the problem. The problem is directing it, respecting it, harnessing it, and guiding it. Just imagine what you could do if you could harness it. Look at how "effectively" -- and we use that word in a somewhat sarcastic and tongue-in-cheek way -- how effectively you can create messes in your reality ... {laughter} ... Just think about what you could do if you could use that dynamic of receiving to bring about only the positive things that you desire. Look at how you receive! If you could just turn that in a positive direction, just imagine what your reality could be.

The Second Clue

The second clue to understanding the magic is that receiving needs to be respected, harnessed, directed, and generated. If you don't respect the energy, you will overestimate it or underestimate it. Either way, you will start to take it for granted. And once you start taking the energy for granted, it becomes invisible. Think about that a moment: Whenever you take anything or anyone for granted, they begin to become invisible. You no longer see them: You see what you assume or what you project -- what you take for granted. The same is true of energy. Once invisible, you are not as conscious or as able to respond -- to be responsible -- in the way that you desire.

And you need to harness the energy, which means that you "own the energy" by owning your ability to use it as a tool to get from where you are to where you want to be. If you don't harness this energy, you will attempt to contain it, to possess it. Owning the ability to use the energy and attempting to contain the use of energy are two very different things. When you try to contain it, to make it "all mine and only mine" -- when you try to make it an end, in and of itself, rather than a means toward a grander and more glorious end -- you try to possess it rather than own its use. You try to control it rather than use it.

When you try to possess it, you become possessed by it. When you try to control it, you become controlled by it. And therefore, you are constantly searching for how to receive, but you never let yourself do it. You constantly feel insecure that someone might take your capacity to receive, so you dare not use it and show others that you have it.

If you don't direct the energy, then you will try to manipulate it. And when you try to manipulate receiving it tends to seem as though it evaporates or vanishes.

If you don't generate it, then you try to dominate it. And when you try to dominate receiving, as opposed to generating it, you become enslaved, constantly pursuing it but never finding it, never really knowing it.

The Third Clue

Thirdly, receiving is a balance between disengaging from the resistances to receiving and engaging and embracing the full body of what you want to receive. Sometimes receiving is not so pleasant, and the key to it is to become conscious. Becoming conscious of the receiving that is already happening -- whether it's good or bad, whether you like it or not -- is the third part to understanding and reaching the magic.

The Fourth Clue

And the fourth part is to understand this: Behind everything you do, whether positive or negative, the one consistent thread is that you want to be loved. That's what you're seeking behind everything you do. When you look at your life and you see the positives that you create -- the successes, the job opportunities, the relationships, the friendships, the health, the meditations, the clarity -- what are you really after? Are you really after the dollars in the bank? Are you really after the title after your name? Or isn't it that what you're really after is the love?

And so many keep that as an abstraction. But let that in: "I am after the love." Everything that you do that screws up, that becomes a problem, is your skewed attempt, but an attempt nonetheless, to get love. There is not an action that is not an attempt to get love, or to secure it once you have it. The most despicable things that are done in the world come down to wanting love. And the most beautiful things as well. That doesn't excuse certain behaviors, but it does explain them.

The fourth key to the magic is to admit the love you seek and the attempts to secure that love once you find it.

When you can understand these components, then you can approach understanding the phenomenon. Then you approach understanding the Magic. You see, receiving isn't just sitting there with your arms open, waiting. Receiving isn't refusing to take the steps because "I'm going to receive. I'm not going to program and process. I'm going to receive." Receiving isn't avoiding what needs to be done. "The yard needs to be mowed. I think I'll receive cut grass." ... {laughter} ... It's not about procrastinating or avoiding processing. It's not that sort of dull, passive energy. It can seem passive, certainly so, but it is also very active, very dynamic, very alive, a very active and very conscious choice.

The Resistances

The resistances do not only keep you from receiving. They also keep you from understanding the very components that are the clues. The resistances don't just manifest in the illusion. They are emotional states that manifest inside of you. ... The TRADITIONAL RESISTANCES are these ...

(1) You have been taught, conditioned (there is a difference between the two), manipulated, or threatened out of receiving.

Some of you have been very clearly taught. You were sat down as a child, and mother or father or "well-meaning" adult told you: "Now look. The only way to get ahead in this world is to claw your way to the top. Just do it for yourself. You can't let anybody help, because then you're going to be owing them." Often they were well-intentioned. They weren't deciding: "Let's see if we can't screw up this kid." But they did give you the message that life is not a gift, that you've got to earn anything and everything that's in it. Receiving is out of the question.

Some of you were conditioned. The words were never spoken, but they showed you through their actions, their philosophy, and the way they viewed the world. Others of you were manipulated. Others of you were out-and-out threatened: "Don't you do that!"

You were taught, conditioned, manipulated, or threatened into believing that to receive is weak, greedy, and selfish -- that it is just plain wrong.

(2) The Dark Shield and the Dark Law.

As a small child, and then again as an Adolescent, you developed this protective device to protect you from the pain, limiters, blockages, contracts, payoffs, and scripts that were forced upon you. You developed a shield, and that shield we call the Dark Shield, because it's made up, first of all, of shame, followed by the issues of deserving and guilt, and by mechanical, emotional, or physical additions. It is a Dark Shield of self-sabotage and self-punishment.

In a cosmic way, it is a very literal shield made up of these limited resources that were available to you at the time. And it did do its job. But it also blocks the positive energy. And therefore, with Shield in place, you resist receiving. It blocks the pain, but it also blocks receiving. And until that Shield is taken apart, it is difficult to receive, and it is almost impossible to do it consciously, consistently, with confidence and trust.

The Dark Law is that statement that brings order to the Dark Chaos. The Dark Chaos is the pain. The Dark Chaos is the ugliness. The Dark Chaos is the disappointment, despair, anger, rage, loneliness, hopelessness, and the shame itself. And to deal with the Dark Chaos, you create a Dark Law that says: "I can never be happy. I will never be successful. I will never find love. I will always try, but fall short. I have a Midas touch of death and destruction." Those very ugly laws -- absolute, singular statements -- give order to the Dark Chaos of your life, but they also blind you to the Light Chaos, which what receiving love is. The Magic of Receiving is abstract, unfathomable. It is mystical. It's a Light Chaos. And this Law that brings order to the Dark Chaos blinds you to the Light Chaos that receiving is.

(3) The Ego's Fantasy and Delusion. The ego's fantasy and delusion of grandeur is better-than or less-than, the flip sides of a coin called arrogance. "I want all the credit. If I'm going to create, I want to get all the credit. I don't want to have to share it with my Counselors, or my Higher Self, or my Unseen Friends. I don't want to have to share it with my Soul, with God/Goddess/All That Is. If I get this job, by God, I want it to be what I created all on my own." So receiving is a threat to the ego.

(4) Control. Another resistance is control itself -- the investment in the need to control, to manipulate, to be a martyr, to feign weakness with self-pity. If you want these agendas and the desire for vindication that becomes part of them -- if you want them more than you want to receive -- you will make a choice for them rather than a choice for receiving.

(5) Wanting To Earn It. There's nothing wrong with wanting to earn. There are a lot of wonderful things to earn in reality, certainly so. And you can also do things and get rewarded. But receiving is also one of those ways to go about creating the reality you want. It adds to your potentials of what you can do, because there are some things in life that you cannot earn, and you want those things, too. And the way those things come about is through receiving. If you're hooked on earning and being rewarded, you will see receiving as a threat -- not unlike the ego that sees it as a threat. Also, to earn and to be rewarded are more closely associated with a masculine energy. Receiving is a more feminine energy, and from the viewpoint of masculine energy, the feminine energy is a threat.

(6) The sixth resistance is the anger, bitterness, and resentment that you hold around love -- and yet at the same time you want it so completely. The fact of the matter is that the human nature is to love. While you're inside that set, that's sometimes difficult to see. But once you get outside the set, then you realize: "Of course. The human nature is to love." You can't help it. You will reach for it and always try to move toward it. The problem arises when you get terrified of it -because of the anger, the bitterness, the resentment, the humiliation, the rejection, the abandonment, and the betrayal that have been so associated with it. On one hand you are running away from it as fast as you can, and on the other hand you're trying to run toward it as fast as you can.

To avoid being torn apart, you end up substituting something in its place and calling it love. For example, you say love is suffering, and you prove your love by suffering, and expect others to suffer to prove their love by suffering as well. That's what martyrhood is. To answer the dilemma of wanting and not wanting love, all at the same moment, you redefine it. Therefore, love is suffering, or love is guilt. If you are so embittered and enraged, yet at the same time you are wanting love, you're going to resist receiving it.

(7) Resistance to Gratitude. You don't want to feel grateful, because you have been taught, conditioned, threatened, or manipulated into seeing gratitude as weakness. If you are grateful, it means that someone else did something better than you did, were nicer than you are, are more powerful than you are. To feel grateful is to admit that you are weak and they are strong. That, you believe, means you're not good enough. Now, none of that is true, but that is the belief system that makes it such that you don't want to be grateful. And therefore, you don't want to receive.

Many of you have worked with and truly have released these resistances, and yet there is still difficulty. The reception is not consistent and trustworthy enough, and you are not confident enough of it. And we would suggest there are also what we'll call more poignant reasons.

The Poignant Resistances

(1) You are so afraid you won't get love -- or that if you do, you'll lose it -- that you just don't trust love. You don't think that you can find love or that you can hold it. And to have it and to lose it would be so horrific, so painful, that you don't know if you could do it. Some of you have experienced great loss -- a person who died, or a loss through misunderstanding or indiscretion. And you realize that a love was lost, perhaps because you didn't respect it. And it hurt so badly that you feel you could not go through it again. Therefore, you don't want to receive. You do not want the Magic of Receiving. "I'll get by. I'll go without." Behind every constriction: You want to be loved. Fear of the love and of securing it is the reason many of you will not let yourself receive with a consistency.

(2) A second, less obvious reason is because you're clinging to the past -- to the child's projections, the adolescent's absolutes, the comparisons, the competitions, the hidden agendas, the insecurities and fears, the failures and pain -- all of which make up this backdrop of the past. Against this backdrop the concept of receiving is impossible or a fluke, because the child has eliminated receiving from its resources, and the adolescent answered the chaos with the blacks and whites of reality. And there's no room in competition and comparison for receiving.

(3) And the third and final of the less obvious reasons is because of pain. Pain is different than hurt. Pain is a separation and a longing. Hurt can be painful. Anger and fear can be very painful. But pain, in and of itself, is separate from them.

And pain separates you from yourself. It separates you from your very Soul. Not a complete severing, no. But it separates pieces of your Soul. In a sense, pieces of your Soul get lost when the pain is too much to bear. It doesn't die -- the Soul is immortal -- but it becomes separate. Fragmented pieces of Soul outline the path of pain.

Pain separates you. Pain causes fear. Pain causes stagnation and depletion. Even though receiving is a palpable, living energy, you don't have the energy to step into it, to allow it, to receive it. Pain is that debilitating. That is why we call it a spiritual challenge to heal that pain, to reconnect with those pieces of Soul, those fragments lost so long ago. As you can work with your pain, be it physical, emotional, mental or etheric, as you can repair the damage of that pain, then you can open up to receiving.

For some, that pain is so intense that it does paralyze and exhaust you so completely that to open up to receiving seems out of reach. And sometimes the pain is so intense you just can't muster enough of your own energy to step up to and into that very living, very palpable energy. And in your pain, you become your own foe, and receiving then functions like one.

So even as you release the more traditional resistances -- as many of you have (you've done beautifully in that regard) -- still you find yourself so frustrated, because you're still not receiving. Often it is these less obvious, more poignant resistances. The pain, the past, and the attempts to create and secure love stand in the way of receiving.

As you can understand and disengage the resistances, then truly so, you can engage that very magic that can afford you a whole new dimension of success and achievement ...

Techniques

The Magic of Receiving stretches beyond the words, but it is there, and it is in each of you. And you can use it and allow it to become a bigger, more profoundly important and magical part of you. If you're not quite ready to receive yet, you can let it rest there. Then, when you're ready, it can emerge, and you can use it as fully and completely as you like.

Now we want to give you some things that you can work with very concretely. Not that you have to take them all. Sometimes, as we've said, there are certain steps that are important: Start here, do these. But with the Magic of Receiving, you can work in a number of different ways, picking and choosing, working with what works for you.

Working with the Clues

The first step that we suggest is particularly for those of you who like to work consciously. This technique, we would suggest, is valuable if you like that concreteness. The first technique is to take the "clues" of receiving and work with them for yourself.

Receiving is an energy -- a palpable, living energy -- that you can step into and that you can step out of. What does that mean to you? What does it mean to you that it is an energy, that it is living, that it is palpable, that you can step into and out of it? Give it meaning. Give it value.

"It is an energy that I must respect." Now how can you do that? What does it mean for you to respect that energy? How do you show that respect, so that you don't take it for granted, so it doesn't become invisible? And how do you harness it? What does that mean? What's possession look like? What would that look like and feel like for you? Own what that means to direct that energy. What does it mean to generate that energy? How does that work for you? What does it mean that what you're really after is the love. Behind everything -- the most positive or the most negative, the most outlandish and the most obvious -- it's all about love. What meaning and value does that have specifically for you?

These components can have meaning, value, and they can matter. They can matter in your life.

And so you work with them, you play with them, you meditate on them, you talk to those intimates in your life about it. You get together with those friends you meet with in your spiritual circles, and you work with these ideas. Talk about what it means, and look for the limited beliefs or the errant thoughts that come with it so you can flesh it out and let it grow and expand so that it has meaning and value in your reality.

Clear the Resistances

The second thing, which is important perhaps for all of you in your own way to do, is to clear the resistances, both the mundane ones and the more poignant ones.

Really work with it. Sit down and say, "OK, look. My resistance is what I was taught. But I know that now. I'm not that child anymore. That authority, for whatever reason, taught me the wrong thing. Now I need to sit with that and make a decision that I can get off it, for to do otherwise is to manipulate." Now if you've just discovered it, that's a different matter. But if you are one who knows all there is to know about what your mother or father taught you, you can get off it now. You do not have to spend weeks working through it. You can get off it. To do otherwise is to let it become part of your manipulative self. You can walk away from it.

Similarly with the others: The ego's holdout for better-than or less-than. The arrogance that you get all the credit. Why? Why is that still so important.

You clear out those mundane or traditional resistances. But then look to what's deeper than that. Is it the pain? Is it clinging to the past? Or is it that tug-of-war between: "I'm so desperately wanting the love and so terrified that I won't find it, or that once I do, it'll be taken away." What can you do about that? You do not have to sit on that mushroom for the rest of your life. You don't have to stay there. You can change that. You can own it, really see it, and change it. You can let go of that past. You do not have to be a prisoner of it. You can rise to the spiritual challenge and heal the pain.

Create Your Own Ritual

The third technique -- and some of you will have a delightful time working with it -- is to create your own ritual. You may sit down with your Higher Self -- or just let yourself be imaginative and let your own intuition be your guide -- to create your own ritual of receiving. You may want to use the very meditation that's on this tape -- where you cross the four different terrains -- which represent the experience of the Four Elements. You may want to adapt that, change it slightly, or use your own intuition to make that into a very personal ritual that you can do with a certain regularity. Some of you who worked with us with The Seven Rituals of Success [a Lazaris workshop], and one of those rituals was that of receiving, which involved various magic papers and bundles and working with the particular chakra centers. You may want to integrate or incorporate some of those techniques.

Or, you do some sort of ritual where you open the chakra centers and let them be flooded with an energy of receiving, by whatever ritualistic way you want to do this. Ritual means a dance that you do, a repeated pattern that gives your Unconscious and your Subconscious a message, that lets your Higher Self and your physical self know: "Oh, this is what they do when they want to receive love." And in that sense, therefore, you will.

Giving Without Duty & Obligation

The fourth technique we suggest will be wonderful for some of you. For others of you it's not going to be something you want to do, and that's fine. This one is the most delicate and intricate of techniques.

And it is this: That you ever so gently begin to give without any duty or obligation, without any particular cause or effect in mind, without any expectation of getting something back. What you're going to do is just give someone something. It doesn't have to be financial. It can be a note, a letter, a phone call. It can be very intangible, in that particular regard. But you're going to give to them not because it's their birthday, or Christmas, or any particular holiday, or as a thank-you gift for something they did for you. There is not going to be any duty or obligation involved in this. There's not going to be cause and effect. No reason like, "You've really earned this," or, "This is my way of saying thank you." No. Just because you want to give. No cause. No effect. No duty. No obligation.

Nor do you expect that because of this, you are going to receive, you see? "I'm going to give to you, and I'm going to give a whole bunch. You, you, you, and you! And then I'll receive a whole bunch!"

Well, in fact, that'll happen, but that's not what you want to do it for. Because then it becomes earning, or it becomes reward. What you want to do is create the resonance. Create the resonance. Because what happens here is that now there's a person who is receiving without earning, without deserving, with no reward attached. And what you're doing is creating a resonance whereby receiving is possible. All resonance creation begins with the possible.

"They're receiving."

"Well, they're doing it because I'm the one giving it to them!" ... {laughter} ...

But they're doing it, aren't they? They're creating the reality of receiving for no particular reason at all. And that means that if you could give it to them, you can give it to you.

Does that mean you go out and buy a card that says I love you very much and mail it to yourself? ... {laughter} ... No. But you can just open to let yourself, your Higher Self, give to you without duty, without obligation, without any particular cause or effect in mind, without any expectation that you have got to give back.

What's the phrase? "If there's one white crow, then one cannot say all crows are black." If you can create one other person who is receiving then you have created a resonance where receiving is possible. Receiving becomes, therefore, a resonance that you can generate.

Now as we say, it's delicate, because it's easy to slip into the place: "Now, when am I going to receive? When's it my turn?" Then the technique becomes something other than what it was intended to be. So work with this one only if it makes sense to you -- only if it is exciting to you.

The Disk of Receiving

The fifth technique that we suggest is to work very specifically with that disk which you receive in the meditation. You do not necessarily have to work in that meditation, but imagine the disk in one of your higher chakra centers -- the third would be the lowest one to use. There you find this disk of energy, and it's a color, a specific color. The color doesn't have to match the chakra center it's in, and you can use a full range of colors. It may be a most wonderful fuchsia. It may be a most incredible lime green.

When you want to receive love, when you are tending to get a little edgy or a little shaky on your ability to actually receive, you can close your eyes and allow yourself to imagine that disk. Perhaps it is no bigger than a quarter; perhaps it's the size of a hockey puck. Let it come to the surface of the chakra in which it is enveloped; then let it project out and expand. Or toss it into the air and let it tumble and spin. Suspended there, it then grows to become this big disk.

Then from its center, it begins to open. Then you can step into it, and allow yourself to be totally enveloped in the most wonderful and beautiful awareness that you truly are loved. Really let yourself be filled. Forgive yourself for not having received it yet, and just be filled, just be filled, just be filled. And then step out, close it, put the disk back into the chakra where it belongs.

If, in your excitement you forget to put it back, it will find its way home. ... {laughter} ... "Oh, my gosh! I lost the disk!" ... {laughter} ... "Wouldn't that be just like me! Absolutely. Everybody else goes around tucking it away neatly. I leave it out there!" ... {laughter} ... "Who knows who's got it now! The neighborhood dog probably stole it." ... {laughter} ... "Now they're getting fed better and taken care of better than anybody. ... They took my disk." ... {laughter} ...

So it will find its way home, but the idea is to close it and put it back. It's part of the respect, part of the honoring, of that particular energy. The technique of the disk is incredibly powerful, beautifully powerful. The more you do it, the better it gets.

Receiving the Ability to Receive

A sixth technique that we recommend is one that seems so obvious once we say it, and that is to receive receiving.

Maybe what you want to do is to say to your Higher Self, "Look, I'm having one devil of a time receiving. So the first thing I want to receive is the ability to receive more elegantly. I know how to do it. I don't know exactly how I know, but I do know how to do it. But I need to do it more elegantly, and that I don't know, so I want to receive that."

Work with your Higher Self, perhaps going into a meditation and just saying, "Here I am. Do what you have to do. You don't have to tell me. I don't need to approve. Just do what you have to do so that I can receive." Let yourself receive the receiving from your Higher Self, from your Counsellors, from the very energy of receiving itself -- so very palpable and alive as it is.

Give it Value, Let it Matter

What is important here as the last of the techniques we recommend is this: When you do generate something by receiving, give it value, give it meaning, let it matter.

So often what happens here is someone may say to you: "Do you realize what you just did? Do you realize what you just created? My goodness, look at what you let yourself receive!" And you say: "Yeah, that's pretty neat." And then you go on to something else.

Wait a minute! Give it some time. Let it sink in. You get so embarrassed, in that particular sense, so spotlighted and visible that you don't want to be that vulnerable. But you need to stop and realize: "Look what I did. Look what we did." Additionally, take that thing that you generated through receiving and amplify it, express it, let yourself absorb it, let yourself digest it. Let it nurture you. Let it have meaning.

How did you do that? Ask yourself: What state of mind were you in? Not that you want to replicate that every time, but you want to be alert to it, aware of it. What did you do here? What was the difference that you let this one in and not that one? Expand upon it so that it has meaning, so that it has value, so that it matters, so that you start developing that image in yourself: "I'm somebody who can elegantly receive, and I'm doing it more and more. That's who I am. That's who I am becoming."

So let it in when you're reminded, "Hey, look what you received. Look at that. You didn't earn that. You didn't do that by some trickery. You received that."

"Wow! Yeah, I did. I received it." Let it in. Let it become a part of you. Because as you do that, then you create the space, you create the resonance where indeed you will receive more and more and more and more.

And ultimately, then, as we've said so many times:

Life is a gift from God/Goddess/ All That Is. And yours is to learn to receive it. Receiving is, in its way, the highest form of achievement and creating. And that is what you are here to do in the thousands of lifetimes you have. The gift is given. Yours is to receive it. And as you can work the magic, allow the magic, receive the magic, so then the reception of what life is, and of the glorious gifts that it can be, becomes ... unending.

With love and peace ... Lazaris

 

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Learning To Have Fun and Consciously Creating Success

Thursday, November 12, 2015
Blog: Learning To Have Fun and Consciously Creating Success

By Lazaris

The Two Major Focuses of Every Lifetime ...

When Lazaris has spoken of Life Focuses he has always said that people have seven of them in every lifetime, varying from person to person and from lifetime to lifetime, depending upon what they want to be doing any particular time. There are two focuses, however, that are part of every lifetime we have: Learning To Have Fun and Learning To Consciously Create Success. This excerpt from Lazaris Interviews: Book II (out of print) is about these two, which are always part of every incarnation.

Learning To Have Fun

"What is the purpose of life? ... What is my task? Why am I here? ... Why am I physical? What is my mission?"

You are haunted by this desire to know. Deep within your brain stirs the thought that if you just knew the answer to one of these questions, then everything else would make sense. Your heart echoes with feelings that a satisfactory answer would make everything ... absolutely everything ... all right.

Your purpose, your mission, your task -- or, as we prefer to say, your focus -- can be stated with disarming ease. The prime reason you are here: To learn to have fun.

Yes. That's it. You are here to learn to have fun! You have created a physical form and a physical world to put it in. You have created all of your reality to give yourself the opportunity to learn -- to learn to have fun.

The critics and detractors pounce upon that statement as proof of the shallowness and hedonism of the New Age. They either get angry at the apparent lack of social responsibility, or they dismiss the idea as the emptyheaded "fad philosophy" of this yuppie "sport" called the New Age.

Many who consider themselves part of the alternative spirituality of the New Age want the purpose, the task, the mission to be more serious or to at least sound more spiritual. Missions should be loftier. A purpose of connecting with your Higher Self or becoming one with the Source sounds much more reasonable. It sounds much more valuable and viable.

At first glance, these criticisms seem to have merit. Upon further investigation the kind of fun we are talking about, the kind of fun you are attempting to learn, is valuable and totally viable. We are talking about the kind of fun derived from accomplishing the lessons you have selected to experience and fulfilling the destinies you have chosen to explore. Your spiritual focus -- your spirituality -- is all about your living, breathing, loving, embracing relationship with God/Goddess/All That Is. This is what learning to have fun is all about.

Your purpose, mission, task -- your focus -- is not only about achievement; it is also about the means of achieving. It is not just about succeeding -- it is also about the way in which you succeed. You can grow through the struggles and hardships of life. Some of you needed to do that. Some still feel the need to struggle and suffer. However, you also have the choice to grow through the love and the laughter.
Which is going to be more fun? Both of them will "get you there," but which is going to be more fun? Everyone, regardless of their spirituality or their claimed lack of it, has the same purpose, task, mission, the same focus: Learning to have fun.

Certainly the desire to reach a heaven, whether it is a literal place or a state of mind, is a desire to have fun. Certainly a desire to connect with your Higher Self or with the Source is a desire to have fun -- a postponed desire perhaps, but still a desire to have fun. For the Christian, certainly being on the right side of the rapture is a goal of having fun. No matter how much struggle you think is required -- no matter how painful the path you decide you must have, the goal, the culmination of your learning, is to reach a state of peace. Peace. That's fun!
There are four keys to understanding this primary focus.
First, learn. The focus is not just "to have fun" -- it's to learn. It is: To learn to have fun. Learning means recognizing and acknowledging that you are the creator of all the possibilities, probabilities, and actualities of your reality. It involves figuring out what you did "right" and "wrong." Learning to have fun means being responsible for what "works" in your life. It means figuring out the "why's" and the "how's" of reality creation so that the fun you have is the fun you know you created. It is self-generated fun. You never have to wonder if it will last, because you create it -- you are the source of the fun, then the happiness, and finally the joy you are having in your life.

Second, define. Define fun continuously. Fun is not static. Being fluid, it always changes. When you were six, you had very distinct ideas of what a fun day was all about. Now those same ideas would seem ridiculous. Your current concepts of fun are unique. As you unfold your future, your current pictures of fun will also change. It is vital that you define and redefine what you mean by "fun" and what you mean by having it.

Third, balance. Despite the parental "tape-loops" inside your head mumbling something about beds that you must sleep in and cakes you cannot eat, it is important to balance. It is up to you to choose and decide not only what's fun, but when it's fun. For some, a "pizza and a six-pack" may not only sound like a fun idea -- at the time, it might be the essence of fun! Yet, at another time it would be the antithesis. It is up to you to balance the long-term fun and the short-term pleasures. It is up to you to distinguish among the inner-child's, adolescent's, young-adult's, and the spiritual adult's sense of: "What's fun?"

Learning to have fun is not just about being at the right place at the right time, knowing where the best parties are on a Friday night, or about knowing the right people. It is about learning, defining, and balancing self-generated fun. It is about creating your own reality and being positively responsible for that creation.

Fourth, deserve. The final key to understanding the prime focus of having fun is also the major blockage to its fulfillment.

You can learn, define, and even balance what is fun for you. You can process and program. You can work with a myriad of techniques. You can be responsible and enjoy the power implicit within that responsibility. You can learn and work through the psychological and metaphysical obstacles that separate you from the reality you ask for.

However, if you don't think you deserve, all the above are intellectual exercises fast becoming exercises in frustration and futility. The lack of deserving permeates your beliefs and attitudes, your thoughts and feelings, and your choices and decisions. You do not feel you deserve. A primary focus that seems easy enough to accomplish has just been moved out of reach. Because it is beyond your belief and therefore your choice, "you can't get there from here."
There are several powerful reasons why deserving is outside the belief-choice matrix.
1. You were taught. You were taught by parents, teachers, spiritual leaders, and peers that you do not deserve -- especially you do not deserve to have fun. These sources of learning were not necessarily ill-intentioned. Much of what they taught you was what they learned and what they thought would "protect" you from a world they didn't understand and therefore a world that seemed to be "the enemy." They did not want you to get your hopes up and have them dashed. They did not want you to get hurt, so they taught you that you did not deserve. Sometimes, they were ill-intentioned. Out of jealousy, possessiveness, and fear, some did intend to imprison you in their limitations. Whichever, you were taught, and you can "un-teach" yourself now.
2. You are haunted by angers, hurts, and resentments of the past. Separate from what you were innocently or maliciously taught, many are followed by the specter of the past. As a child you were so angry you wished your mother was dead. You numbed your hurt with hate. You harnessed the anguish with resentment. Lonely, you punished yourself. You decided you did not deserve to be happy. Ever! You still live by that decision. You are haunted by the past.
3. You feel guilty. The guilt you may feel can be sourced in fact and fantasy, or it can be unsourced in the belief that you are guilty just by being alive. Perhaps you were taught; perhaps you were conditioned. Now you feel guilty. According to you, you do not deserve. The possibility of happiness, the possibility of having fun, is frightening. It is a threat. This is where your lack of deserving lies if you find yourself feeling guilty when things go wrong and even worse -- guiltier -- when things go right. Are you constantly apologizing for being here -- for being alive?
4. You are caught in a "catch-22" of deserving. You come to realize that the lack of deserving is the problem. You are eloquent and articulate about all the reasons you don't deserve. You have even worked at relearning what the inner-child erroneously learned. You have released the haunting angers, hurts, resentments, and you have freed yourself from guilt. Yet you still don't feel you deserve. Why?

Because, you tell yourself, if you deserved, you'd have figured it out long ago! You say you don't deserve because you still feel undeserving. You continue by telling yourself that if you were a person who was meant to feel deserving, you would have done it already. Wrapped in a negative ego of, "I'd hate to admit it," you are caught in a "catch-22" reality.

Often, there is a feeling of foolishness: "I should already know this. I should already have done this." Believe us, you will only feel more foolish to wait even another month. If you feel foolish now, how much more foolish are you going to feel a year from now?

Admit your foolishness and your embarrassment. Break the "catch- 22" by realizing you are not alone. Everyone feels the lack of deserving. It is part of your human condition. It is part of what you are learning through the lens, through the focus, of learning to have fun.
5. You are depressed. Depression is anger that you fear you will get in trouble for having. Many who are depressed in their marriages or relationships are often angry, but fear reprisals should they talk about it. Many who dread going to work because their jobs depress them are really saying they are angry, but actualization carries intolerable consequences. The anger that seeds depression can build over many months or many years, or it can come from quick and sudden change. One of the ways you suppress -- repress -- depress -- that anger is by denying fun. You deny it by refusing it, or by choosing to believe that it is outside the realms of possibility or probability. Either way, it is beyond your reach.
6. You lack perfection. You have made mistakes, and you have not forgiven yourself. Perhaps you are waiting for others to forgive you or to apologize to you. Perhaps you have decided that you are unforgivable. Whatever you tell yourself, you have concluded that you do not deserve to have fun. Erroneously, you have decided that you can have fun once you are perfect, and not before. Since you already have made a mistake, you are doomed. If you can discover the arrogance rather than feel the self-pity of this position, you can be free of it.
7. You decided you do not love "good enough." Like the lack of deserving you were taught, many of you have concluded that you simply do not love "good enough." In many situations, the Human Potential Movement and the ensuing metaphysics have fostered that conditioning. Many have decided that humankind as well as they, individually, have a fatal flaw -- an original sin of sorts -- of an inability to love. Because they can't love, or can't love "good enough," they do not deserve anything -- especially, they do not deserve to have fun. Nor, according to them, does anyone else.

We realize we have not offered concrete solutions and resolutions to these obstacles to your deserving. Knowing what stops you -- knowing the hurdles and where they are -- can be the first step in finding your own solutions.

Having fun is not the glib and shallow concept so many want to think it is. It sounds simple enough, yet your reality belies that suspected simplicity. After so many lifetimes, fun and learning how to have it seem as elusive as ever.

Having fun involves learning to create your reality, defining the means and the ends you wish to achieve and acquire, balancing the future and the present against the backdrop of the past, and most of all it involves allowing yourself to feel, and then be, deserving.
Learning To Consciously Create Success

The other essential purpose, mission, or task -- or, as we call it, focus -- is as important and as illusive as the first. The second focus: To learn to consciously create success.

You see, it is not just about being successful. It is about learning. It is about being conscious. It is about defining exactly what success is for you.
Creating your own reality is something you do whether you are conscious of it or not. Everyone consciously creates their own reality. Some, lost in the labyrinth of ignorance or naivete, do not know it. Others, caught in the web of fear and ridicule, deny it. Many, trapped in the paralysis of being in potentia, wish it were true. Regardless, you do create your own reality.

Conscious creation of reality is how you function. Conscious creation of success is where you focus.

We do not want to examine the entire arena of creating success. That has been done. The bookshelves of your reality are replete with the "how-to's" of success.

We want to plant seeds of consideration to help you more clearly understand what success really is for you, and how to more concretely be able to consciously create it for yourself. To begin, we must look at what success isn't. Many of you don't really know what success is. It is one of those concepts that you are supposed to "just know." Potential humiliation overrules curiosity. Without clear understanding you continuously seek and never find success.

In lieu of clarity you accept the consensus reality definitions thinking that success means greater intelligence, more deserving, and "better than." You assume success entails competing with others and conquering scarcity. Success is concomitant with perfection in action and intention.

Initially, this sounds acceptable -- even preferable. In time, you realize that you are not meeting these standards. No matter how intelligent you are, there are those who are smarter. You don't feel deserving. No matter how persuasive you are, no matter how many others you convince, you cannot convince yourself that you deserve -- that you really deserve. No matter how tightly you hold on to your "better thans," they keep slipping through your fingers. Competing and conquering are not only exhaustive, they're boring. You are not perfect. You are not perfect. No, you're not.

To stop the erosion, you simplify your consensus reality definitions. Success means having more and better than, being more and better than, doing more and better than. Success means more ... !

Shuddering at the prospect of failure, you take a deep breath, you steel yourself, and you dive in again. Rather than realizing that the definitions are incorrect, you try again to make them work for you. Some will spend their whole lives on this merry-go-round reaching for a brass ring that isn't there. Never was, never will be.

"Um-pa-pa, Um-pa-pa." There is no end. What success you do create feels like a fluke that can be snatched away at any moment. As much as failure is painful, success is more frightening. There is not real success on the merry-go-round.

Some reluctantly get off the carousel by being knocked off with the hard edge of failure. They judge, punish, and conclude that they are no good. They feel and are convinced that they "blew it - - it's too late."

Then there are those who are forced off the carousel by getting caught in the soft voice of self-delusion or by getting lost in the mirrored maze of grandeur. They convince themselves that they have met the criteria. The euphoria is eventually replaced with the haunting hollowness: "Is this all there is?"

A few, a very few, consciously climb off the merry-go-round by releasing the consensus reality definitions. Admitting that they do not know what success is, they then search for new meaning and create their own definitions of success -- of their success.

The most effective way to define success in a way that the definition can be your definition, is to lay forth the core -- the backbone -- the backbone of what success is. The skeleton of success is just that: a skeleton. You must give it life by adding the flesh and blood, the muscle and nerve, and the thinking and feeling of success. You must breathe life into these pieces of the puzzle called success.

Not surprisingly, there are seven basic components to being successful. You all know these seven pieces of the puzzle. Often, you just don't know how they fit together.

1. First is power. The most elegant definition of power is the ability and the willingness to act. Power, in truth, has nothing to do with intimidation, control, or manipulation. It has nothing to do with the desire or the attempts to overpower.

"Power" has become a euphemism for fear. When you confront a scary person you often call them powerful. When you encounter a powerful person you often call them scary! Very strange.

True power is being both able and willing to choose and decide, and to act on those choices and decisions. It is being able and willing to think and feel and act on those thoughts and emotions. It is being able and willing to admit to having attitudes (opinions, evaluations, and discernments) and beliefs and then acting consciously on those attitudes and beliefs.

2. The second puzzle piece is creativity and productivity. Creativity is generating and stimulating conception and perception in yourself and/or in others. Creativity is not defined by career or label. The artist and the non-artist, by whatever definition, are creative if they generate and stimulate conception and perception.

Levels of productivity are measured by the amount you learn about yourself. Whatever you are doing, if you learn a great deal about you and who you are, then it is productive. If you learn little or nothing, then it is nonproductive. Productivity is a quality, not a quantity.

3. Then there is awareness, and there is aliveness. Many look for lofty esoteric meanings for these two concepts. In their search they lose sight of success. To be aware, concisely, means knowing you have impact. Some believe that it is impossible to have impact on each other. Yet others will concede and deal with impact. Whether they are supposed to have it or not, they actually do have impact on the people around them. Regardless, everyone agrees that you have impact, at least on yourself. When you know this -- really know this -- you become aware.

When you combine four very special ingredients, something very special happens. You create the synergy of aliveness. Synergy means the whole is greater than the sum of the parts, and in this case the aliveness is more than just equal parts of love, trust, expectancy, and enthusiasm.

To become really alive it is important to combine the flexibility and fluidity of love with the fragility and rigidity of trust. Then it is vital to stir in the wonder of expectancy and the sparkle of enthusiasm. Mix well. Be alive.

4. Happiness is the fulfillment of your needs. Joy is the fulfillment of your preferences. Enjoyment is the elegance with which you do both.

5. Many make the mistake of assuming that success means having resources. In truth, success means having access to resources. There are those who have money, but no real access to it or to what it can buy them. They do not experience success. Others have loads of access to money as their only resource. They often experience limited or shallow success. The truly successful person will have expansive access to physical and metaphysical resources. Success is within the grasp of anyone who can close their eyes, alter their state of consciousness, visualize, and manifest in their reality. If you are willing, each of you has unlimited potentials for success.

6. Critical to being successful: the willingness to adventure.

In your "old age" world you learn to be a warrior. You learn to confront, to battle, to conquer, and you dominate. In the "New Age" world you can learn to be an adventurer. You can learn to encounter, to understand, to befriend, and to transmute with dominion. Consciously created success involves - integrally involves -- being willing to adventure in your reality and in your world.

7. Dominion is an attitude and a belief. Dominion is a point of view. When you are willing to co-create your success with God/Goddess/All That Is rather than expecting someone to do it for you, you are on your way. When you are willing to stretch and reach for the future rather than grovel in the past, you begin to feel the excitement and the wonder of dominion. when you are able to see and demonstrate that first your world -- and then the world-at-large -- is a friendly place ready to support you rather than out to get you, then you have dominion.

With dominion, you have the final piece of the puzzle called success.

The secret of being successful -- of learning to be successful? Begin by owning each of the seven puzzle pieces as an attitude first. Feel. Feel powerful, creative/productive, aware/alive. Feel happiness and joy in an enjoying way. Feel that you have access to resources, a willingness to adventure. Feel dominion.

Do not expect to be successful first and then to have the feeling. Feel it first. Feel it first.

Do not aim at being successful. Do not make success the bull's eye of your target. Don't "shoot for success." Ironically, the secret to consciously creating success is not to make it the central target of your desire, expectation, or imagination. Rather, accomplish the means. Aim to be powerful, creative/productive, etc. Aim at the means and allow the ends to follow.

Don't shoot for the ends. Accomplish the means, The ends will follow.

With love and peace ... LAZARIS


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